As a college student, I am constantly figuring out what I do and don’t like. But there is one thing in particular that has stuck out to me, the deep depths of perception and beauty in the eyes of a dark society.
Social media makes it easy for us to believe that someone has a perfect body or life, and it eventually becomes desirable to us. Desirable to us to the point that we do all that we can to try to look like someone else, or have that one Instagram model’s “perfect physique.”
Essentially, we are looking at a picture of someone else and loving what we see more than loving what we see in ourselves.
What’s the deal?? If you really think about it, wanting to look like someone but yourself is mind-boggling, so what is the reason behind the trend of wanting to be someone we are not?
Simply put, the answer is how we choose to “define” beauty.
“Seventy-three percent of women say that a curvier body type is more appealing now than it has been in the past ten years. Still, when asked if they wanted to change their hips, 85 percent of women wanted them to be narrower” said Allure Magazine.
In the U.S. the pressure to be thin is more pressing today then it has ever been. It’s causing women of all cultures in our country to question whether or not they are “good enough” or “beautiful enough” regardless of how they feel inside.
But what REALLY is the definition of “beautiful”
“Having beauty; possessing qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.; delighting the senses or mind:” – Dictionary.com
Unless I am highly mistaken, the definition of the word beautiful says nothing about waist circumference, body fat percentage, or the size of your tata’s/ booty. It is impossible to define beauty because it comes in every shape, color, and size imaginable.
Today, the phrase “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” has been altered to “beauty is in the eye of society.”
Rather than focusing on things that are good for us, we are subconsciously crushing our own spirits, how crazy is that?! We should be loving ourselves and our own blessings, not focusing on the blessings that someone else was given.
I was scrolling my Facebook feed and came across the headline “See How the ‘Ideal Body Type for Women’ differs around the world”. My jaw literally dropped when I saw the ideal body type for American women that was posted. Sadly, in our society, that beautifully natural, curvy, and feminine body would be considered “plus-size” so why are we lying to ourselves?
Instead of focusing on what the overall ideal body type is, we should emphasize what we can do as individuals to be healthy. For each of us have our own unique body types. Non are less real than the other. Every single human being on this planet has a different body and shape, and some don’t even have the opportunity to change, even if they wanted to.
With that said, loving one body type over another, in my opinion, is just wrong. If you are keeping yourself healthy on the inside and doing things you enjoy there should be no standard of what is considered beautiful.
So, the next time you find yourself bashing on your hips, cringing on the size of your thighs… I challenge you to step away from your phone, look in the mirror and love every ounce of your being.
Put all of society’s expectations aside and focus on delighting your mind and surrounding yourself with positivity and things you enjoy. Who made others the judge of whether or not we are beautiful, am I right…?